This past week I posted a birthday wish for my 22-year-old child on FaceBook. So many share the downside of social media. And, yes, there are downsides, nonetheless, my most recent experience has been one of kindness and care. In the past I’ve been reunited with friends near and far with whom I had lost touch. Some have since passed away. And, social media, namely FaceBook, gave us a chance to reconnect, reminding us of the moments that have shaped us.
This past week I came out as a parent of a trans child. He has been out for years throughout the transition process. I stayed silent for the most part. I had much to learn from Alex and the community, and I didn’t feel ready to speak while I educated myself and grow as a parent, therapist and human. I have friends on FaceBook who share different religious beliefs. I have friends who live very different lifestyles than that of our urban world. Yet, the outpouring of love, support, care, and good will was extraordinary. I felt meaningful connections rather than disparity.
There are many times social media can seem like a window into a polished world. One in which I can find myself feeling a good deal of envy for milestones or experiences I haven’t achieved or may never know. It’s imperative that we live our own lives without measuring our successes based on others. Yet, I find that challenging, and often fall short. The responses to my most recent post remind me of the generous hearts far and wide.
Sadly, I can get caught up in the behavior of annoying strangers or hateful acts in the news. It’s easy to feel despairing of humankind. However, when I take in the love shared, I am filled with the healing power of kindness. My friends and family have reminded me that thoughtfulness is natural for most of us, and it always behooves me to live in that truth. I will endeavor to focus on the good will I see. And when I stray, much as my thoughts can stray in meditation, I will bring myself back to the reality of pervasive good will.
- Read this New York Times Piece. It can be reassuring. https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/19/well/mind/covid-mental-health-languishing.html?searchResultPosition=1
- Let a friend or family member know you’re thinking of them. That act of kindness can’t be measured, as it’s invaluable.
- Watch the Oscars, either to see what you might want to view, or to enjoy the fashions worn this year in the time of Coronavirus.
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